I believe that we are all a little bit broken, every single one of us.
We all have strength that we have gained through the most hardest of challenges or life experiences.
The only problem is that our cracks are mostly invisable to those on the outside.
A majority of the time we all go about our daily business and the broken parts of our hearts, minds and souls do not hider us.
Other times they disable us in ways we cannot explain or make others understand.
For those of you whom have followed my blog for a while, you will remember what a difficult and challenging year last year was for my family and I.
I tried to sit down in a brief break from office work the other day to articulate exactly what we all went through and where we are now.
It was going to be a post of celebration, of moving on and showing strength in times of trouble.
I wrote and rewrote the post three times.
Tears streamed down my face, memories came back to the surface, and in the end the whole situation just drained me more than I like to admit.
The events of last year led me to having a mental meltdown and eventally being diagnosed with Anxiety and Depression.
The mere process of getting out of bed in the morning felt like the most challenging task.
I had anxiety attacks which disabled me and frightened me more than I could ever imagine.
I was medicated, had therapy and forced myself to be much more gentle on me.
The whole recovery process was much longer than I could have anticpated and in the mean time I was presented with other, annoying and disturbing health concerns.
Only now I realize that Anxiety and Depression are not anything you can ever say you have recovered from 100%, they share your life, even if just by being in the back of your mind, or you may have a bad day and think
“here we go again”
For a long time I would often find myself on a floor somewhere, collapsed from the pressure I was feeling inside, more than once this happened at work, where my husband was thankfully Manager at the time.
For a long time it hurt to smile.
Many friends and family shone like bright little stars of hope as they sent me messages of courage and hope and surrounded me with love.
Sadly the moment I was at my weakest also became a time others choose to use me as an emotional punching bag, dumping piles of hate on me.
Just when I thought I was getting strong, the haters would get me down.
Slowly, over time, their words and venom did not cut me like they used to, they did not leave me paralysed, and I am proud of that.
Unfortunately, as with any trauma, the hurt does leave some scaring behind, and that really takes some time and kindness to heal.
A year on I am so much more stronger, and I am so happy about that.
I think I really wanted to write this post now to send out some love to anyone else going through a tough time, as I know there is a lot of you.
I want you to know that you are not alone.
I want you to lean on those who love you.
It is ok to vent, to talk, to say to others “I need help”, or “give me a moment please”.
I really want to make sure that you do not put yourself down throughout this.
Breaking down is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of being strong for far too long.
Remind yourself when those voices in your head tear you apart.
Remind yourself that you are one remarkable human being.
Be proud of who you are, and how far you have come, even if that is merely that today you smiled and your heart did not hurt in doing so.
I remember a little over a year ago, a lovely lady named Leigh posted a gorgeous quote on my Facebook page.
I have searched and searched the net, but cannot find the exact words, however it said something like this:
“One day you will get through this, and you will look back and be so proud of how far you have come.”
And I did get through the rocky parts, and life has thrown more things my way, but for the last year I constantly thought of that quote.
So today I send it out there for anyone else having a rough time.
You will get through this, it may seem hard right now.
But one day, you will look back and be so very proud of how far you have traveled.
Just promise me one thing please.
Be kind on yourself xoxo